April 24, 2014
A follow-up note from my anonymous friend:
"Caroline, 

I hope you don’t mind a little follow up correspondence.


I did get another copy of “Cuckolding”, which I actually read a couple of years ago.  I have also been enjoying reading through the first few pages of “Cuckolding: Questions and Answers”.  


In the introduction, you talk about being aware of the word “cuckold” as an insult before you were aware of it as a “lifestyle”.  When I was in my twenties, the only sources of information I had were Penthouse magazine and “Joy of Sex”.   So, I became aware of the attraction situationally and had no idea what to call it.  I was an English major (by convenience) for a couple of years and I am sure the OED would reference “adultery” and “derision” in its definition of the word “cuckold”.  If I allow, condone, encourage my wife to have sex with another man, take pleasure from watching or joining in, how can it be adultery?


The derision part is pretty hard to take too. I understand that is part of the attraction for some people, just not for me.  So, though I certainly acknowledge being aroused both the fantasy and reality of watching my wife with another man, I have some trouble “self identifying” as a “Cuckold”.  This is nothing I mean to argue about.  I realize that you are naming a lifestyle or sexual activity that encompasses a vast range of activity, and I am on the rather “vanilla” end of the spectrum.  It’s just an observation.


But, it does go to what I observed earlier about your different perspectives.  On the Cuckolding Lifestyle blog, you posted a video of an Australian (perhaps) couple with a black man.   I have both watched and participated and I understand that husband’s arousal.  While I have never experienced it, I do find some interracial videos arousing, including that one.  But, the “BBC” does seem to be some kind of very obsessive sub-fetish, with some expressions almost being “anti-white male”, though I realize this is more of an expression of the desire for extreme humiliation in some people.  I am cool with interracial sex.  But, my wife has never expressed the slightest interest.  Can you give me a woman’s perspective on the attraction, or is it an obsession?



Your anonymous reader”

 My response: 

Hello again,



Interracial sex can be an attraction, obsession or both. In my case, it’s a fascination. I love the taboo, the color contrast and the size issue. In having sex with black men, I am getting something Michael is not and cannot ever be. There is something about that which we both find compelling. That is not to say that I go exclusively with black men but I admit it is a preference.



Love,
Caroline
  
   http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-Questions-Revealing-intimate-lifestyles/dp/1491039574/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1392495008&sr=1-1&keywords=cuckolding%3A+questions+%26+answers+caroline+james

A follow-up note from my anonymous friend:

"Caroline,

I hope you don’t mind a little follow up correspondence.

I did get another copy of “Cuckolding”, which I actually read a couple of years ago.  I have also been enjoying reading through the first few pages of “Cuckolding: Questions and Answers”.  

In the introduction, you talk about being aware of the word “cuckold” as an insult before you were aware of it as a “lifestyle”.  When I was in my twenties, the only sources of information I had were Penthouse magazine and “Joy of Sex”.   So, I became aware of the attraction situationally and had no idea what to call it.  I was an English major (by convenience) for a couple of years and I am sure the OED would reference “adultery” and “derision” in its definition of the word “cuckold”.  If I allow, condone, encourage my wife to have sex with another man, take pleasure from watching or joining in, how can it be adultery?

The derision part is pretty hard to take too. I understand that is part of the attraction for some people, just not for me.  So, though I certainly acknowledge being aroused both the fantasy and reality of watching my wife with another man, I have some trouble “self identifying” as a “Cuckold”.  This is nothing I mean to argue about.  I realize that you are naming a lifestyle or sexual activity that encompasses a vast range of activity, and I am on the rather “vanilla” end of the spectrum.  It’s just an observation.

But, it does go to what I observed earlier about your different perspectives.  On the Cuckolding Lifestyle blog, you posted a video of an Australian (perhaps) couple with a black man.   I have both watched and participated and I understand that husband’s arousal.  While I have never experienced it, I do find some interracial videos arousing, including that one.  But, the “BBC” does seem to be some kind of very obsessive sub-fetish, with some expressions almost being “anti-white male”, though I realize this is more of an expression of the desire for extreme humiliation in some people.  I am cool with interracial sex.  But, my wife has never expressed the slightest interest.  Can you give me a woman’s perspective on the attraction, or is it an obsession?

Your anonymous reader”

My response:
Hello again,

Interracial sex can be an attraction, obsession or both. In my case, it’s a fascination. I love the taboo, the color contrast and the size issue. In having sex with black men, I am getting something Michael is not and cannot ever be. There is something about that which we both find compelling. That is not to say that I go exclusively with black men but I admit it is a preference.

Love,

Caroline

http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-Questions-Revealing-intimate-lifestyles/dp/1491039574/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1392495008&sr=1-1&keywords=cuckolding%3A+questions+%26+answers+caroline+james

April 23, 2014
I always thought glory holes were a figment of the porn film maker’s imagination. Then, when I went to my first swinger party with Michael, I discovered a glory hole room and was initiated to the fun that can be had sucking on and fucking anonymous cocks. Still, it didn’t quite feel like the real thing for reasons I couldn’t rationalize, but I guess it was because it was a safe environment created for sex and wasn’t public. Everyone was there to experience sex and it was a couples-only party. This is probably an an unimportant consideration. After all, men and women were fucking and sucking through a hole in the wall without necessarily knowing the identity of their partners. That’s pretty real. When I told Michael about this perspective, he understood and told me about how he had experienced the “real thing” with two different girlfriends over the years. The first time was at the Sutro Baths, a co-ed bathhouse in San Francisco in the seventies. There one found a sauna, a group sex room with a large bed with room for lots of people to play on or to stand around and watch, and cubicles with beds and holes in the wall strategically placed  for viewing the action in the next cubicle and sharing cocks. When his girlfriend began giving Michael oral sex on the big bed in the group room, they were suddenly surrounded by lots of men who all wanted to join in. Some of the men took turns fucking her doggie-style as she was giving Michael head. Others fondled her and to hear Michael tell it, it was a very erotically charged evening. After leaving the group room, they went to a cubicle and she sucked a few cocks. Michael’s second “real” experience was many years later in Los Angeles where there was a co-ed bathhouse in the Silverlake area. Michael went there with a new girlfriend who liked it so much, they went back for seconds the next night! They started off in the jacuzzi and after some conversation with a third man there, the three of them retired to a cubicle where Michael watched her get fucked by her first black man. When he was finished, cocks started appearing through the wall as if to say “Me next!” It was surreal.  The girlfriend began sucking on the various cocks but apparently the men were over-excited because they all seemed to cum almost as soon as she got them into her mouth. She turned and tried to put one cock into her pussy but he came in her hand before she could slide it in. She had better luck with the next one who managed to last a few dozen strokes. Hearing these stories, I had to revise my idea about glory holes being porn fiction but it seems these places are long gone now. Have all of these places disappeared or are they the best kept secrets in the alternative lifestyle culture?
http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-path-women-resource-couples/dp/1480097349
http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-Caroline-James-ebook/dp/B009WD8TCW
  Paperback or Kindle

I always thought glory holes were a figment of the porn film maker’s imagination. Then, when I went to my first swinger party with Michael, I discovered a glory hole room and was initiated to the fun that can be had sucking on and fucking anonymous cocks. Still, it didn’t quite feel like the real thing for reasons I couldn’t rationalize, but I guess it was because it was a safe environment created for sex and wasn’t public. Everyone was there to experience sex and it was a couples-only party. This is probably an an unimportant consideration. After all, men and women were fucking and sucking through a hole in the wall without necessarily knowing the identity of their partners. That’s pretty real.

When I told Michael about this perspective, he understood and told me about how he had experienced the “real thing” with two different girlfriends over the years. The first time was at the Sutro Baths, a co-ed bathhouse in San Francisco in the seventies. There one found a sauna, a group sex room with a large bed with room for lots of people to play on or to stand around and watch, and cubicles with beds and holes in the wall strategically placed  for viewing the action in the next cubicle and sharing cocks.

When his girlfriend began giving Michael oral sex on the big bed in the group room, they were suddenly surrounded by lots of men who all wanted to join in. Some of the men took turns fucking her doggie-style as she was giving Michael head. Others fondled her and to hear Michael tell it, it was a very erotically charged evening. After leaving the group room, they went to a cubicle and she sucked a few cocks.

Michael’s second “real” experience was many years later in Los Angeles where there was a co-ed bathhouse in the Silverlake area. Michael went there with a new girlfriend who liked it so much, they went back for seconds the next night! They started off in the jacuzzi and after some conversation with a third man there, the three of them retired to a cubicle where Michael watched her get fucked by her first black man. When he was finished, cocks started appearing through the wall as if to say “Me next!” It was surreal.

The girlfriend began sucking on the various cocks but apparently the men were over-excited because they all seemed to cum almost as soon as she got them into her mouth. She turned and tried to put one cock into her pussy but he came in her hand before she could slide it in. She had better luck with the next one who managed to last a few dozen strokes.

Hearing these stories, I had to revise my idea about glory holes being porn fiction but it seems these places are long gone now. Have all of these places disappeared or are they the best kept secrets in the alternative lifestyle culture?

http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-path-women-resource-couples/dp/1480097349

http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-Caroline-James-ebook/dp/B009WD8TCW

Cuckolding by Caroline James
Paperback or Kindle

April 22, 2014
Cuckolding: A matriarchal instinct?
I can’t help but noticing that some elements of the cuckolding lifestyle appear to mirror those of matriarchal societies where women would be free to have sex with men as a normal course of events but also as part of a rite that brings the power of the Goddess to men by creating a balance between the feminine and masculine and in raising energy. I don’t believe that worshiping women is the primary, conscious instinct when a man brings the subject of cuckolding to his woman but where does it rank on the scale of subconscious motivations? Is this a timeless, primal urge to which men have always been subject? Certainly this trait, along with many others, has been discouraged and punished in patriarchal societies like our own. Is the rise of cuckolding as a compelling, if privately practiced, lifestyle the forerunner of a return to a matriarchal way of life?

 Time will tell.
 
http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-path-women-resource-couples/dp/1480097349

Cuckolding: A matriarchal instinct?

I can’t help but noticing that some elements of the cuckolding lifestyle appear to mirror those of matriarchal societies where women would be free to have sex with men as a normal course of events but also as part of a rite that brings the power of the Goddess to men by creating a balance between the feminine and masculine and in raising energy.

I don’t believe that worshiping women is the primary, conscious instinct when a man brings the subject of cuckolding to his woman but where does it rank on the scale of subconscious motivations? Is this a timeless, primal urge to which men have always been subject? Certainly this trait, along with many others, has been discouraged and punished in patriarchal societies like our own. Is the rise of cuckolding as a compelling, if privately practiced, lifestyle the forerunner of a return to a matriarchal way of life?


Time will tell.

Cuckolding by Caroline James

http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-path-women-resource-couples/dp/1480097349

April 22, 2014

rogernorburn asked: Missionary position

Yes, please! :)

April 21, 2014
My client wants to fuck me…
With women more and more ensconced in the workplace, the professional world has become the home-away-from-home that provides satisfaction and growth not to mention opportunities that ordinarily don’t present themselves to women whose work is in the home. Cuckolding couples have turned this to their advantage and the ability of a woman to text photos and short videos to her husband in real time as she engages in cuckolding activities with a co-worker, or stranger for that matter, can spice up those moments when they are apart.
http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-Questions-Revealing-intimate-lifestyles/dp/1491039574

My client wants to fuck me…

With women more and more ensconced in the workplace, the professional world has become the home-away-from-home that provides satisfaction and growth not to mention opportunities that ordinarily don’t present themselves to women whose work is in the home. Cuckolding couples have turned this to their advantage and the ability of a woman to text photos and short videos to her husband in real time as she engages in cuckolding activities with a co-worker, or stranger for that matter, can spice up those moments when they are apart.

http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-Questions-Revealing-intimate-lifestyles/dp/1491039574

April 21, 2014

twistedmaterialguy asked: So, you too, married to a slut?

No. I am the slut. ;)

Caroline

April 21, 2014
A note from a friend on Our Hot Wives (.org)
Hi Caroline, I spoke to you a few days ago on ourhotwives.org and I thought I would send a message here. I’ll probably send it over there, too, since I don’t know how often you are on either site. I just finished reading your book and wanted to let you know I don’t think I’ve ever been so turned on by reading about a serious topic in my life (and I read a lot) :). I actually had to stop reading a few times because I was getting too excited and my cock was becoming way too hard to be sitting in the same room with some of my family (my Dad is visiting). I really appreciate the work you put into writing and helping those of us who are considering the hotwife lifestyle. I can’t wait for my wife… so I can discuss this with her. Thanks again for the book and for taking the time to offer encouragement. Signed, GSHAWK
http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-path-women-resource-couples/dp/1480097349 

A note from a friend on Our Hot Wives (.org)

Hi Caroline,

I spoke to you a few days ago on ourhotwives.org and I thought I would send a message here. I’ll probably send it over there, too, since I don’t know how often you are on either site. I just finished reading your book and wanted to let you know I don’t think I’ve ever been so turned on by reading about a serious topic in my life (and I read a lot) :). I actually had to stop reading a few times because I was getting too excited and my cock was becoming way too hard to be sitting in the same room with some of my family (my Dad is visiting). I really appreciate the work you put into writing and helping those of us who are considering the hotwife lifestyle. I can’t wait for my wife… so I can discuss this with her. Thanks again for the book and for taking the time to offer encouragement.

Signed,
GSHAWK


http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-path-women-resource-couples/dp/1480097349 

April 20, 2014
Sometimes I’ll think of the most audacious and titillating things to say to Michael that have to do with our cuckolding activities, real and/or imagined, because what I have done or might do both provide stimulation for us that enhances our relationship. Last night at a large celebration with hundreds of people most of whom Michael and I didn’t know, I found myself being followed around by a young man in his mid-twenties. He had been drinking, maybe a little more than the others present, and was letting me know that he fancied me. Finally, he blurted out, “You have a nice ass.” Michael was standing near enough to hear which prompted me to say, “You ought to see my pussy. I had it waxed earlier today.” The boy stared back at me not knowing what to say and I saw a big smile cross Michael’s face signalling his enjoyment of my unexpected remark. Though he was staying in the hotel where the event was being held, I didn’t suggest we make that journey realizing that in his inebriated condition, he would be unlikely to perform. The rush of the moment was best left unspoiled by a frustrating, follow-up attempt. The point is, the cuckolding rush can be had without performing the deed. Couples wanting to experiment and dip a toe in these waters can do so without going all the way. If it thrills, continue! If the young man had a little less to drink that evening, he would have had an interesting anecdote to tell his friends about the woman he fucked while her husband watched. As it was, Michael and I had some fabulous sex when we got home. Why not think of some sexy things to say to your spouse and see if this works for the two of you?
http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-path-women-resource-couples/dp/1480097349

Sometimes I’ll think of the most audacious and titillating things to say to Michael that have to do with our cuckolding activities, real and/or imagined, because what I have done or might do both provide stimulation for us that enhances our relationship.

Last night at a large celebration with hundreds of people most of whom Michael and I didn’t know, I found myself being followed around by a young man in his mid-twenties. He had been drinking, maybe a little more than the others present, and was letting me know that he fancied me. Finally, he blurted out, “You have a nice ass.” Michael was standing near enough to hear which prompted me to say, “You ought to see my pussy. I had it waxed earlier today.” The boy stared back at me not knowing what to say and I saw a big smile cross Michael’s face signalling his enjoyment of my unexpected remark.

Though he was staying in the hotel where the event was being held, I didn’t suggest we make that journey realizing that in his inebriated condition, he would be unlikely to perform. The rush of the moment was best left unspoiled by a frustrating, follow-up attempt.

The point is, the cuckolding rush can be had without performing the deed. Couples wanting to experiment and dip a toe in these waters can do so without going all the way. If it thrills, continue!

If the young man had a little less to drink that evening, he would have had an interesting anecdote to tell his friends about the woman he fucked while her husband watched. As it was, Michael and I had some fabulous sex when we got home.

Why not think of some sexy things to say to your spouse and see if this works for the two of you?

http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-path-women-resource-couples/dp/1480097349

April 20, 2014
Q: My wife insists on having sex with some of her lovers without condoms. Should I take this to mean that she is willing to become pregnant with them?
Caroline: I think this is a good assumption even if she rationalizes it by saying it is just a fantasy. Why don’t you ask her?
http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-Questions-Revealing-intimate-lifestyles/dp/1491039574

Q: My wife insists on having sex with some of her lovers without condoms. Should I take this to mean that she is willing to become pregnant with them?

Caroline: I think this is a good assumption even if she rationalizes it by saying it is just a fantasy. Why don’t you ask her?

http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-Questions-Revealing-intimate-lifestyles/dp/1491039574

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April 20, 2014
Helping to intensify a wife’s sensations as she experiences sex with another man is one of the most gratifying pleasure a man can enjoy.
Try it!
http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-path-women-resource-couples/dp/1480097349

Helping to intensify a wife’s sensations as she experiences sex with another man is one of the most gratifying pleasure a man can enjoy.

Try it!

http://www.amazon.com/Cuckolding-path-women-resource-couples/dp/1480097349

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